People who are guarded are afraid that you can see right through them

People who are guarded are afraid that you can see right through them that’s why they hide behind layers of secrecy and humor. In my past I would try to find out what was wrong and care and listen and beg and shit and when you do this with a female who is guarded, 99 percent of the time your bitch ass is going to end up in the friend zone. Let me give you some advice If you run into someone who is guarded and acts tough all the time and has anger management issues leave them alone do not pursue a relationship with them.

 

There are dozens if not hundreds of reasons why  but from my experience you don’t want to be with someone who lies to you.They might do it to keep things from you or to hide something or to keep you from opening a blue door. Someone with anger management issues obviously has emotional problems and you don’t need someone taking out that shit on you.Most of those people are very insecure and don’t trust themselves so don’t try to get in a relationship with someone who can’t even trust themselves because they will hold back on you. You will be the only one giving  100 percent of yourself  in that relationship.  If you don’t want to pursue a romantic relationship with someone like that then what you have to do is call them on their bullshit.

 

 

Yes call them a bitch or an asshole because most of those people act like that. Mention that you can see through their bullshit guard act and not to waste your time with it. Keep it real or bounce. Some if not most people who are guarded will eventually let you in and get over their issues but some cannot be helped because they don’t want to be helped.  Those type of people have dealt with problems in their head for a very long time. They keep those problems behind a blue door. Do not open that blue door.

 

 

If they open it that’s fine but don’t force them to open it. People with big locks on their blue doors need to talk to a professional to get helped. You can tell them straight in their face what their problems are how to fix them and that you will help them fix it and you will be their for them and yada yada yada but trust me  they know they have problems but refuse to deal with them. If someone has a problem like that and its been more than a few years since they have fought with those demons then leave them be. Just leave them be. Trust me you don’t want to deal with the bullshit of trying to help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.In the end they just point fingers and blame everyone else for their problems.

Updated: January 28, 2013 — 3:32 am
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