People who are guarded are afraid that you can see right through them that’s why they hide behind layers of secrecy and humor. In my past I would try to find out what was wrong and care and listen and beg and shit and when you do this with a female who is guarded, 99 percent of the time your bitch ass is going to end up in the friend zone. Let me give you some advice If you run into someone who is guarded and acts tough all the time and has anger management issues leave them alone do not pursue a relationship with them.
There are dozens if not hundreds of reasons why but from my experience you don’t want to be with someone who lies to you.They might do it to keep things from you or to hide something or to keep you from opening a blue door. Someone with anger management issues obviously has emotional problems and you don’t need someone taking out that shit on you.Most of those people are very insecure and don’t trust themselves so don’t try to get in a relationship with someone who can’t even trust themselves because they will hold back on you. You will be the only one giving 100 percent of yourself in that relationship. If you don’t want to pursue a romantic relationship with someone like that then what you have to do is call them on their bullshit.
Yes call them a bitch or an asshole because most of those people act like that. Mention that you can see through their bullshit guard act and not to waste your time with it. Keep it real or bounce. Some if not most people who are guarded will eventually let you in and get over their issues but some cannot be helped because they don’t want to be helped. Those type of people have dealt with problems in their head for a very long time. They keep those problems behind a blue door. Do not open that blue door.